By Tammie Jurek
It's been said years ago that love is what makes the world go round. If that is true, then why do so many people feel a lack of love especially children?
Our first assessment we walk parents through is the Five Love Languages. Author and speaker Gary Chapman made this book well known back in the early 1990’s and has since written targeted books for children, teenagers, singles, and etc. You can purchase his book at our website: Aimingyourarrows.com
There is great value in knowing the love languages of your children. Some of the benefits:
More information about your child
Gives insight into why a child may be expressing themselves in certain ways
Allows you to see why your child interacts differently with people including you, siblings
Gives tangible ways for you to intentionally love your child in the way they will feel love.
A phrase Gary Chapman uses is filling the love tank. It’s a great illustration. If a child feels no love, it will be like they are running a car without gas.Our children need to know they are loved and valued. This simple tool can help you gain more insight into your child’s heart and how they give love to others and how they receive it from others.
Most of us have a dominant love language and a secondary. If your love language is quality time, then it is natural for you to want to give your time to others and also receive it from others. However, if your spouse’s love language is acts of service, he may not understand why you want to sit on the couch and talk rather than go clean up tree branches in the backyard. To him, he is expressing love to you by doing things you may not want to do but needs to be done. Knowing your spouse’s love language can better serve you to know how to express love that is meaningful to them. It is no different for your children.
Have you ever observed a child who doesn’t want to be alone? EVER? They constantly ask people to play with them, read to them, interact with them. Chances are good that their love language is quality time.
If you would like to know more about our 2D workshop and how you can learn more about Love Languages, please contact us at aimingyourarrows.com