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The Way They Learn

By Tammie Jurek


The second Assessment that we use in our 2D workshop is based on Cynthia Tobias’ book The Way They Learn. When Cynthia wrote this book, she addressed the obvious….children are different. In her book she makes the case that” we as parents tend to chart the course and plan the events of our children’s lives according to what makes sense to us- the way we did it”. This can be related to how your were educated to how mom cut the roast beef for Sunday dinner. It is easy to draw our wisdom from our own personal experiences because that is what we know best. However, depending on how many children you have in your home, you will find no two of them are the same! Not only do they look different, but they think, act, take in information, and perceive life differently than you. So what do we do?

A simple way to learn a child is spending time with them. Slowing down and just observing your child playing, interacting with siblings or other children, you can learn so much. As parents, we never make it a life goal to frustrate our children, but we do it. Every time the expectation is from your own point of view, there is the potential for frustration.

Paul said in Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. The challenge as Cynthia states in her book “find positive ways of building on their children’s natural strengths without sacrificing desired bottom-line outcomes.

The five key guidelines Cynthia provides are:

  • Observe patterns of behavior

  • Listen to the way they communicate

  • Experiment with what works and doesn’t work. It may not work for you, but it might for them.

  • Focus on natural strengths, not weaknesses.

  • Learn more about learning styles- your child’s and your own.

Dominant Learning style Characteristics is what we use from Cynthia’s book in our workshop. Knowing and understanding the difference between Concrete sequential, abstract sequential, abstract random, and concrete random will give you more insight into what your child does best, what makes sense to them, what’s hard for them, and what questions do they ask when learning.

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